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Wednesday, May 7, 2014

Insecure Writer's Support Group (10)

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Frustration. Annoyance. Disappointment.

That is what I'm feeling.

I have no room for insecurity at the moment. I'm too busy imagining my head being banged repeatedly on the desk, the table, the wall, a pot of boiling water, anything and everything. I say "imagining" because doing that in actuality would hurt, and I'm not a big fan of pain, so no thank you. Anyway . . . I feel stuck. I'm in the "I hate my work" phase. 

I'm frustrated because I've worked on this manuscript a lot, but I'm not happy with the direction it's going. I'm annoyed because even though I have many scenarios written down, none are satisfying and I can't figure out "that one thing" I need to make it work. And I'm disappointed because I expected better from myself. 

On the other hand, I know this will pass because I'm not giving up. I'm not sure how I'll overcome it yet, but I will. It's just a vicious circle that goes around and likes to torment anyone with a creative mind. Right? Either way, I'm not letting it win. Not now and not with any year that has a "2" in it. That is all. Hope next month I have a more positive post. For now, I'm glad I survived the A to Z challenge, and I'm glad you are here so I can vent. What about you? What would you like to vent about? Go ahead and do it, I promise to give you some useless advice in the comment section. :P

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  1. I'm not quite in the "I Hate My Work" phase, but I have been there, and it is no fun. I hope you find your way out soon.

    I am, however, in a place where I can't work out that one thing I need to make this part of the story click. I keep fumbling around, though. Eventually I'll find it.

    Congrats on surviving the A to Z Challenge!

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    1. I'm not sure I really hate it. I think I'm just angry at myself and taking it out on the poor MS lol

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  2. Aloha :)

    How about stepping away from WIP and doing some zen-related breathing (whatever that is.. I have no idea.. it just sounds cool to say)

    However, if *that* doesn't work, chuck the zen in the trash can... print a copy of WIP and go ahead... smack that thing repeatedly on the desk, the table, the wall and *then* throw it gleefully into the pot of boiling water.

    Works for me everytime... (except the one time I looked around and my wife and three kids were watching... with a strange expression on their faces... "Vegetarian Lobster, anyone?" didn't help either...

    *GOOD LUCK* !!!

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    1. LOL
      I like that advice, though. I'll abuse the print out of the WIP and boil it down! Now that's something I can do. :P

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  3. Well . . . I have no wise words. I think I used them all up during April and now I've got nothing except a pot of coffee. BUT BUT BUT I know your frustration is due to wanting to write a book that's not crap, so it's a good kind of frustration, even though it does't feel like it. (Really . . . IS there a good kind of frustration? Ever? That's as bad as Mark's Zen breathing advice.)

    All I can do is cheer from the sidelines and say YOU CAN DO EET! Got yer back.

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    1. A good kind of frustration. I'll take it! See? You gave me the upside of being frustrated, who said you used all your wise words up in April. Oh wait, you did. Never mind.

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  4. Oh, yes, I know that phase well. I've been working on my current WiP off and on for longer than I care to admit, hunting that elusive "thing" that will pull it all together. Fingers crossed, I think I found it. And you will, too. It will all come together. Hang in there! :)

    Madeline @ The Shellshank Redemption

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    1. I'm hanging! I'm hanging . . .
      Glad you found your elusive "thing." :D

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  5. Don't beat your head - it will hurt.
    Would discussing the issues with another writer help? I'll bounce ideas off my critique partners and they usually suggest something that sparks an idea and I'm able to solve my own problem.

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    1. It's only imaginary . . . all good!

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  6. Oh, I've been struggling with "I hate my work" almost the whole time I've been working on my WIP so I can relate. I think I've finally figured out how to make it work and get out of this phase but I know how frustrating it is. Glad you're not giving up!

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    1. Yay for you being out of this phase. Wait for me, though, I'll be with you soon! ;)

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  7. I know it is hard especially after getting a ton of notes. It all feels overwhelming. The easy thing to say is, this to shall pass. It is easy to say because it is true, but I know it feels like pulling a mountain at the moment. You will get it, you are very talented.

    Brandon Ax: Writer's Storm

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    1. I'm just mad at myself for not being further in this project as I'd hope I would be by now. Grrrrr!

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  8. I hate that stuck feeling. You know what you want to do, but you don't know how to do it. Argg!!! Sometimes, I have found, that working on a blurb, or summary, or pitch, helps. Also, lots of chocolate works. I suggest Guylians -> http://www.guylian.be/en/home/ . Nothing makes the muses happy like rich, mouth-watering chocolate. :-D

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    1. I think I'll give the blurb a try . . . AFTER I've had my share of chocolate. Thanks for that! :D

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  9. I was in that mode a few weeks ago. Take a nap. I swear those fix everything. ;) I did have a story that I got stuck on and was eventually forced to set it aside. I started working on other stories, not thinking much about it then, out of the blue, 2 years later, I had the solution come to me. Hopefully, it doesn't take you that long to figure out your story, but my point is you will find a way and start loving the story again.

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    1. Naps are heavenly!
      I hope it doesn't take two years either lol I have other WIPs I'm working on in between but I need this one out soon. Well, not before its ready, but soon. I guess its just the pressure I'm putting on myself . . . which in turn is blocking me more. Ugh!

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  10. I know what you mean, I still need that "one thing" for my novel, but I'm only just starting edits so I'm hoping it'll come to me in time. Good luck finding yours!

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    1. Oh good luck to you, Laura! Happy editing! :)

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  11. Hiya S! I totally understand those feelings of frustration. I've been feeling them since I turned my 2012 NaNo project into the manuscript I'm sadly still working on. One thing that helped was stepping away and working on a couple of poems and short stories--projects that weren't the one giving me chest pains. They did take away from my manuscript time and put me back, yes, but I feel so refreshed after stepping away and doing something else that the lost time is entirely worth it. Best of luck with your writing and I hope that balance comes to you soon!

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    1. Stepping away does help me. But . . . umm, I did just come back from vacation . . . and the frustration is still there. I'll get it though. Someday. o_0 lol

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  12. I definitely understand, I have a manuscript I want to throw out the imagination window most of the time, and it's so incredibly hard to keep working when you just can't make it click! But I have faith in your ability to overcome this horrid stage, =) Good luck getting past it sooner rather than later!

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    1. Sooner would be awesome. I have the story all lined up . . . its the reason for it all that isn't good enough yet. Good luck with your MS, too! :)

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  13. I know the feeling. I am kind of experiencing it although it doesn't have to do with writing. I think talking about it helps. Discussing ideas with your critique partners usually inspire more ideas. It was great when I did that a long time ago. I recommend it. May the muses be kind to you.

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    1. Ahh the muses . . . I'll give them wine see what they do. ;)

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  14. Sometimes the puzzle pieces just don't want to fall into place. We just have to keep turning them around and trying a new piece.

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    1. And I like puzzles don't get me wrong . . . but its really annoying when that one piece is missing. Grrrrrrr If you find it, send it my way! :)

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  15. I think we all can relate to that feeling, for sure! It will definitely come to you, although it might take some time. What sucks is when you write pages and pages and realize it's wrong...it's much better if you can somehow figure it out before you write the next paragraph!

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  16. The dreaded hate my work stage is so frustrating. Have you tried skipping the scene you're struggling with? I've done that and as I write the next scene (or next several scenes) I always figure out what I needed to do in the scene I've skipped.

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    1. The scenes are all written out. It's the big reason everything happens that I don't think is good enough yet. But also, my OCD will not allow me to skip scenes too often O_0

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  17. Congrats on surviving the Challenge! Have some chocolate to help you through this phase. Goodness knows my waistline says I'm there a lot.

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    1. Oh yeah, my waistline sure knows I've been taking this advice way too seriously . . . but yeah, I'll have more! lol

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  18. I know just how you feel. My current WIP is annoying me too. I want it to be brilliant, and it's just not. But I know what it needs, and even if I feel incapable of it, I'll just keep revising. Stay determined SK!! :)

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  19. I feel your pain. But as you know, this too shall pass. I'm talking to myself here as well.

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    1. Talk away . . . next month we'll be happy we both listened to you. :D

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  20. Sometimes a break helps. Sometimes a second opinion too. Always being kind to yourself helps, though. And hugs.

    Hug

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    1. Yeah, I got both. But that "one thing" I need is still hiding, do you have it? Can you give it back? lol

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  21. Step away from the manuscript. Turn off your computer. Watch some good movies. Don't even look at book. Books and manuscripts are forbidden for the time being. Mommy says so.

    Love,
    Janie

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    1. Ooooh MOVIES! yes. I'll listen to Mommy . . . what is a manuscript again? pffft

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  22. Oh, I totally hear ya! I've so done this. Usually I have to take a break and look at another ms for a while. Once I get back to it, I missed it so much, the freshness does wonders and I figure it all out.

    If I'd have read this last month I would have had so much to vent about regarding editing, but thank all that is good and holy, I'm past that horrid phase (for now...). Best of luck to you!

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    1. Next month I'll be in your shoes . . . I hope. :)

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  23. I was in the 'I hate my work phase' a few days back, but I kicked myself out of it. Leave the ms aside for a few days, and look at it later with a new insight. Hugs.

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    1. I have it aside . . . maybe I should get back to it instead of drowning in my frustrations? lol

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  24. I'm glad you survived the A-Z, too, Katherine. Congratulations.
    No - don't give up. It's just a phase, and we all expect more from ourselves which is a good thing. Let your subconscious work it out and stop worrying. It will come together.
    All the best my ismy friend.

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    1. I'll let my subconscious work on it while I watch movies. I was told to watch movies. I'm going to do it. lol

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  25. I'm totally stuck in my WIP, too, and not only that, I haven't touched it. TOUCHED IT. Since NaNo of 2013. There. I should be banging my head. During NaNo, it went a different direction than I had thought (total pantser) and now I don't know what to do. See, all of a sudden a backstory became really vivid, so I wrote it all down and now I don't know if it should go in there (it's already set in two timelines - sci-fi/thriller) AAACCCKKK!
    So to calm myself down, I say, "Now is not the time to be working on it" and I take care of my family, and do my other writing stuff...and it sits there in the back of my head asking for attention and I keep telling it, "You're in time out for misbehaving during NaNo, and NO, I don't know when I'm letting you out..."
    Feeling your pain,
    Tina @ Life is Good
    On the Open Road! @ Join us for the 4th Annual Post-Challenge Road Trip!

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    1. Time out for misbehaving!!!! Hahahahaha I love it!
      Good luck forgiving it soon, though lol ;)

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  26. Way to keep up that fighting spirit! Keep writing! Keep dreaming! You can make it through this challenge! I know you can!
    And BTW, I have done the "mock" head-banging on the desk think - not hard enough to hurt, but just as an action to make myself laugh before I try to deal with the challenging spots again. Ok, so I'm a crazy writer. You knew that already, right? I just try not to do stuff like that in public when I'm writing at coffee shops, dance studio lobbies, or at the library (all while taking my kids to their activities).
    Seriously, I agree with DL, sometimes you need a break - maybe it's for five minutes, maybe it's for the length of a walk, but sometimes that break can jump-start your creativity. Find something else you love, enjoy it, try to "not" think about the writing for a few minutes - and maybe you will have a "voila" moment. :)
    Happy writing! Cheering you on!

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    1. Okay, so I'm clumsy. If I did it mockingly you better believe I'll somehow get a good bang in. I'll stick to imagining it, it's still funny-ish.

      And a break I will have, I'll be watching movies. Janie told me to up there ^ :P

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  27. Sounds like you just need a break from it.
    Although, someone once told me if I was stuck in my MS it must be time for someone to die.
    :)
    Good luck.
    Thanks for your support.
    Heather

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  28. Ah, sing with me, but picture Johnny Depp singing around the campfire in his pirate movies.

    "It's the writing life for me..."

    That's better. Now get busy :-)

    Anna from Shout with Emaginette

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    1. But I'm not done signing! Johnny is now busting some moves and . . . no? Okay! I'll get busy. :D

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  29. Yeah, "this will pass because [you're] not giving up." At least you know this. :)

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    1. I do know it. I still wanna whine about it though, that's okay, right? lol

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  30. I'm in a writing phase... if I could just sit down at my laptop without getting distracted! And find some music that hits my soul in the moment haha good luck with your phase!

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    1. Ahhh music for the writing . . . the best combo for me. :)

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  31. I'm in the "I hate juggling two fulltime jobs" phase! ~Hugs

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  32. I feel you on this. I've been here many a time. Give me a minute and I'm sure I'll be there again. Sigh. It sucks, but hang in there. I know you'll overcome!!

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  33. Perhaps you need a break from it for a while. Spending so much time on one thing, thinking about it all the time, is bound to make your head fuzzy and confused. Take a step back and when you come back to look at it again you'll have a fresher perspective.
    And while you're not thinking about it, inspiration might just strike then too!

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  34. Sorry to hear you're feeling frustrated, and not happy with your work at the moment. I know when I feel like that, taking a break, and either working on something else or even not writing at all, really helps.

    I hope you start feeling better about your work soon.

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