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Wednesday, January 6, 2016

Peace Out! . . . (IWSG — 29)

New year, new goals, new frame of mind . . .

BUT I don't call them resolutions. For in the past, most of my resolutions have failed. I haven't done those in years. However, I've become fond of the word "intentions" and that's what I go with. 

I won't bore you with my list though. Instead, I'll share what I think we could all benefit from in 2016—as writers! Things I'll say, "peace out" or "don't let the door slam you on the way out" to ;)


1 - "If you want to doubt yourself, do it when you're dead." ~ ME. 


I'm making this my new motto, and in its honor, I say: Let's say goodbye to self-doubt—my biggest enemy. Not to insecurity, though, because that is impossible, but even through that, KNOW that you're capable and WILL get to the happy ending you wanted. Just keep pushing and keep writing!


2 - Let go of all the promises you didn’t keep in 2015. Holding on to that guilt won't help! Either make it a 2016 to-do and act toward it OR forgive yourself. 

3- You know that need for validation? . . . And I'm probably talking to myself here—let's kick it to the curb. We all need validation every now and then, but we don’t have to constantly pursue it. Just try and remember how far you've come and know your own opinion is good enough. As long as we keep writing, we're doing GREAT!

4 - Look at yourself in the mirror and say bye to all the flaws you think are there—both physical and internal. Self-confidence and loving yourself is important for a proper frame of mind in writing, so yes, this applies. Like who you are! I mean, I like you . . . so you're obviously great. I rest my case.

5 - Let's eliminate all thoughts that this year will be the same as last. We have thousands of words to write! Ans what does that mean? It means we have an insane amount of amazing possibilities waiting for us! Both in the fiction world and in the real world. Though as a writer, I suppose there's probably no difference in worlds . . . which makes it both scary and exciting! ;)


What are you saying bye to this year?



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22 comments:

  1. Good motto! The most important validation should come from ourselves.

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  2. Great thought, and one I'm going to be mulling over!

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  3. Letting the old year go is so important. Let's learn from all the "bad" and relish all the "good" then move forward. Happy 2016!

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  4. I'll say goodbye to self-doubt too. Or at least I will try to do it. It's a tall order for me LOL.
    Love your motto!

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  5. I always have a hard time with self-doubt and self-confidence. I think I may have let go of last year, though, and am pressing on to make 2016 my best year yet.

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  6. I like your style! Wise words to remember, I am starting the writing year with positivity and enthusiasm. Loving what we do is the most important thing after all.
    Happy New Year :)

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  7. Great post. Bye to the impotence of inactivity that self-doubt and insecurities can trigger. This is the year of action over inaction, forward momentum over passivity. "Get'er Done! Wishing us all the blessing of Irish glib for our stories.

    Happy New Year,
    Juneta @ Writer's Gambit

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  8. Great post. Bye to the impotence of inactivity that self-doubt and insecurities can trigger. This is the year of action over inaction, forward momentum over passivity. "Get'er Done! Wishing us all the blessing of Irish glib for our stories.

    Happy New Year,
    Juneta @ Writer's Gambit

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  9. Wonderful thoughts! I definitely have a problem with self-doubt that I could stand to lose. Hopefully there will be lots of words written this year!

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  10. I am working on letting go of what I failed to do last year and looking forward to all that I can do in this one. Happy New Year!

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  11. HI, SK...

    I love your attitude for the new year! I think saying 'Goodbye' is a healthy and terrific approach.

    We constantly beat ourselves up striving for PERFECTION... so I think for the first time in my life I WANT to say GOODBYE to PERFECTION... Trying to attain it is just plain stupid. Life is full of flaws and some can be quite beautiful... Drop by my blog when you get a chance and you'll see what I mean.

    HAPPY NEW YEAR, SK... All the best!

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  12. Great ideas, Kathryn! Thanks for sharing them. Happy New Year. May it be full of good thoughts and deeds.

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  13. Wonderfully said, SK. We need to love ourselves and maintain a good self-image.

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  14. Great motto. Certainly an inspiration for 2016. Best wishes.

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  15. throw out self-doubt - perfect motto for 2016!
    here's to a scary and exciting year!

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  16. I feel like we should be coming out if a huddled with our hands raised while yelling. Great way to motivate!

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  17. Nope, you're not talking to yourself. Self-doubt was the thing for 2015...let's hope it's totally out of style for 2016.

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  18. Perhaps comparing myself to others? I think that's something we're all a little guilty of doing.

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  19. Stuff....and things...but mostly stuff. Great post.

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  20. That's a great list of intentions. Ours is simply to interact more with other writers. We're all in this together, and having a support system definitely makes this whole uphill battle just a little bit easier. So we're saying bye to being reclusive, pale-skinned hermits. Now we're going to be reclusive, pale-skinned hermits, but while talking on the Internet with fellow writers.

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